Habits that make a man (and woman)

We aspire to change for the better. Who we truly are stems from our actions, and action is an integral part of our habits. However, if we seek to change, we essentially don't need to undergo a complete transformation; rather, we need to cultivate a new habit. That is change.

We often assume that to become a better person, we need to undergo change—like water freezing into ice or ice melting into water. Similarly, we might assume that to become healthier, we must alter our weight, which entails a physical transformation. Nevertheless, in reality, change often involves forming a new habit.

The Challenge of Forming a New Habit

Some claim that by repeating a new action for 21 days, a new habit can form. Others argue that change is instantaneous, negating the need for a 21-day waiting period. Regardless of which school of thought you follow, why not consider adopting a micro habit? As the name suggests, a micro habit is a small and simpler habit to establish.

What Exactly is a Micro Habit?

The concept of micro habits was initially popularized by BJ Fogg, a behavioral scientist and author of the book "Tiny Habits: The Small Changes That Change Everything." Fogg asserts that the key to effecting lasting change lies in starting with incredibly small habits that are easily manageable and then gradually increasing their complexity over time. He refers to these tiny habits as "tiny habits."

I appreciate the concept of micro habits for these three essential elements:

1. Easy to Begin: Micro habits are so minute that starting them is a breeze. This is crucial because often, the most challenging part of altering a habit is simply taking the initial step. For instance, one of the micro habits I'm currently cultivating is writing one post per week. It may sound simpler in words than in practice—writing one post per week requires persistence and motivation, especially when I'm juggling tight travel schedules, office tasks, children's homework, and the need for personal time.
2. Simple to Maintain: Micro habits are so minor that commencing them is uncomplicated. Again, this is significant as the most arduous part of changing a habit is often the commencement. A micro habit I've successfully adhered to involves curbing my mindless Facebook browsing before bedtime. Once more, it may seem easy, but maintaining it is another matter. Nevertheless, enforcing this micro habit is made easier by setting a time limit on my smartphone. When the limit is reached, the phone locks, and I can put it aside and sleep.
3. Effective: Micro habits are so diminutive that initiation is straightforward. This is vital because often, the most difficult part of altering a habit is simply starting. I don't have any personal examples to share regarding this benefit. If you have any, feel free to share them in the comments below.

Why Do People Struggle to Develop New Positive Habits?

Despite the simplicity of the micro habit concept, one of the primary reasons people fail to build new positive habits is the lack of a strong motivation ('the big why'). While micro habits simplify the process of forming new habits, this strategy fails to address the motivational aspect. Without a potent and meaningful reason driving the desire to establish the habit, we might abandon our efforts halfway through. This is particularly true when utilizing the micro habit technique, as the short-term progress is minor.

Additionally, we might underestimate the importance of the consistent practice of the micro habit. Some might believe that if something is too effortless, it's unnecessary to do. However, without consistency, there is no gradual improvement, and thus, the micro habit fails to take root.

Conclusion

Let's embark on a journey of growth and positive change. I encourage each of you to take that first step towards creating a new micro habit today. These small yet consistent actions have the potential to shape our paths in remarkable ways. Start small, stay consistent, and watch as these micro habits gradually lead to powerful transformations. Here's to your journey of progress and success